Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Learning to be Selfless in a Selfish World

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Philippians 2:3-4

Me! Me! Me! Isn’t that our hearts cry from the very beginning. I want this and I want that and if I don’t get it I will surely pout and fuss. Sort of like a 2 year old in a candy store. We want and we want and in this selfish world it never ends. We desire to be first and to be noticed. We want to be loved and to be romanced. We want our cake and we want to eat it too (and gain no weight while we’re eating it!). For pity sakes you can even by shirts that say me, me, me. There is even a country song that says I want to talk about me. The thing is we are longing for something more. That innate desire was given to us. The problem is our sin nature distorts it. We think that we can fulfill this through selfish things. By achieving those things we think we want. Well girls it doesn’t work that way. It is one of those things that is hard to grasp. Sort of like the die to live thing. When we do things out of selfish ambition we may be filled with satisfaction for a moment but it doesn’t last and so we try for something bigger and better. But when we do things in humility not with a selfish ambition we are truly satisfied. You see we were meant to have romance and love. There is cake that we can have and eat too (without gaining any weight might I add). It is our King who wants to fill us and love us and romance us. That happens when we humble ourselves. When we become His hands and feet and do things for others. It doesn’t seem like it will work at the time, but when we do it we will find out the more we give the more we receive. The peace that passes all understanding floods our life. We find we are satisfied because that desire we had to be filled is filled by Him. The other way of thinking has destroyed lives and marriages and friendships, but His way brings life. It brings life to our marriages and to our relationships. I think we have all heard this before but we keep getting stuck because it is hard. He asks us to hard things and we just don’t trust Him enough to come through in the end. We want to protect ourselves and cover our own back. This is exhausting and very unfulfilling. We don’t need to do this. Let’s commit this week to try it His way. Let’s get rid of the selfish desires. That won’t be easy. You will need to ask Him to help you. That is what He is there for. He has you covered. No more me, me, me! Let it be about Him, Him, Him. He will honor that. He will fill that empty place that we think we need to fill with things of the world. He will wow us beyond anything we can imagine. How do I know? Because the Bible tells me so. Let’s expect great things. No more dissatisfaction with life. Let’s just do the thing even if it is hard. We only get one chance around. We need to “Just Do It”!

Lord thank you so much for loving us. Thank you for wanting to fulfill us. Help us to do it your way. God I praise you for wanting to romance us. You gave us that desire to be filled and we mess up by trying to fill it with everything except what you intended. We are so thankful that you are gracious and merciful. That even when we mess up you forgive us. We love you Lord.

1 comment:

Ira Williams said...

Denise, thanks for your wonderful posting on humility. It is one of the most misunderstood, but incredibly powerful, of all personal attributes.

It's never easy for us to walk in humility. But when we do, and we are "others-oriented", then everyone wins. And we represent the love of Christ well.

I've actually written a book on the topic of humility, and an excerpt is available here:


The book is available at Amazon, and on my site: www.speaksoftly.com.

Thanks again!

Ira Williams